We still have community, but we don't seem to have local community. Even in a small town where you know your neighbors and your mother's down the street, they're not in arm's length.
— Helen Fisher
We all have restlessness in long-term relationships.
Men tend to be hierarchical, but women are driven to make lateral connections so they can cooperate.
When chimps threaten, they open their mouth and show their teeth. It's a little like waving a knife in front of you. It's very primitive, and therefore bizarre.
The women's movement is just a symptom of basic changes in the economy that are favoring women.
People have been looking for love potions since hunter-gatherer societies.
There's every reason to think SSRIs blunt your ability to fall and stay in love.
There is more and more data indicating that there is a biological basis to your political views.
You can really get poked in the back and not feel it very much, but just a feather around your lips and you really do feel it.
We evolved in a tropical climate where the smells of plants and flowers were all around us. We spent a lot of time in the trees with a lot of sunlight and no clothes.
For so many generations, a woman's only career path was to marry well and to marry up. Those days have changed.
In America, we are demanding everything from our marriage.
Romantic love is an addiction.
A woman will toss her head and a man will say, 'Oh she's trying to pick me up,' when in fact she's not doing that at all. So, women actually have to be a little careful with what they do, because men will pick up things that they didn't mean.
Mothers really were not built to raise babies not only by themselves, but with only a partner. For millions of years, a woman had much more than just her husband to help rear her young... This whole idea of 'it takes a village to raise a child' is exactly how we're supposed to live.
I think that property is very important in this day and age. It defines you; you worked hard to get it. It's meaningful to you, and when you divorce, a lot of people have a lot of battles over their property for good reasons.
The Internet lets women use words, which is their natural tool. Little girls speak in more complex, grammatical sentences than little boys do, and women never lose that superiority in verbal ability.
When you look at the brain regions associated with picking up data from the body, a huge amount of the brain is devoted to picking up information from the lips and tongue.
Of all the foods we share, there is nothing more primordial than meat. It's no surprise that meat-eaters still want a partner who will give, receive and share this primordial symbol of a budding partnership.
Romantic love allows you to focus mating energy. Attachment sustains that relationship as long as necessary to raise your baby.
I can't conceive of caring more about my president than my own partner.
Liberals and conservatives are looking for entirely different things. Their attitudes toward romance and how they court are really dramatically different. There's almost no overlap.
Kissing is not just kissing. It is a major escalation or de-escalation point in a powerful process of mate choice.
In that early-love stage, you're in that state of exhilaration. You talk till dawn. You become obsessed with 'What does he think?' 'Does he like me?' 'Does he think I'm fat?'
Office romances are few, short, and not usually destructive.
After a man falls madly in love, he no longer cares how old she is.
You've got to remember that men are men and women are women. And although a lot of similarities, there are some real differences.
Women are better at reading body language everywhere in the world. As a matter of fact, it's associated with the female hormone estrogen. Women are better at figuring out of tone of voice, reading your face and posture and gesture.
You can get into a very fancy car and know everything about the engine, but when you drive in that car, you feel that rush. In the same way, I think the more you know about love, the more you can enjoy it. And knowing about your personality type, who you are and what kind of person you're dealing with gives you a great leg up.
Both sexes like the exercise and challenge of sports, but for men it's also a basic display behavior for impressing and winning a mate.
I've always maintained that men were more romantic than women.
Any kind of novelty or excitement drives up dopamine in the brain, and dopamine is associated with romantic love.
People kill for love. They die for love.
There are cognitive processes and limbic reactions associated with basic emotions. And you can change brain chemistry, but you're still not going to change memories and experiences in a human being.
My hypothesis is that conservative Republicans have very clear values, and when you have that, you're simply more relaxed.
There were real reasons that you were attracted to somebody originally. The brain doesn't pick willy-nilly. Unless you part ways hating each other for some reason, that mechanism could get triggered again. You can literally fall in love again.
When you're in the throes of this romantic love, it's overwhelming - you're out of control, you're irrational, you're going to the gym at 6 A.M. every day - Why? Because she's there.
A lot of people head into courtship looking for fireworks. Don't pass up a chance by dumping someone after a first date because you don't feel the fireworks. The fireworks can happen at any time and be maintained.
Since when is anyone truly honest with anyone?
Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you've been rejected.
When people tell you to walk a certain way, it's like not thinking of a purple tomato. You can't not do it.
