There's no such thing as identity: it's something we have to believe in to make life more tolerable.

Certainly, we all have within us the potential to live in a hugely different way. And how happy you can make yourself, I think, a lot depends on how much you beat yourself up about that; and how much you can, in some sort of providential way, console yourself and say, 'Well, it's all worked out for the best, in the best of all possible worlds.'

If you have only one life, you can't altogether ignore the question: are you enjoying it?

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